WTF another rant about the election

Posted 10 November 2016 by

The evening of Tuesday November 8, 2016 I was casually out with an old friend eating sliders and fries with the election results playing on TV in the background. As I dipped my fries into ketchup, I remembered so vividly the election of 2008, the energy was palpable with the rise of change. This night was a lot different, more stoic, an air of dare I say ambivalence. Slowly the mood began to shift, the waitress turned up the volume to the TV as more states turned the color red.

Since Trump began his campaign I have been saying to whoever would listen that he actually had a chance and I thought people would really listen once he won the Republican primary. Though I personally had not registered for a party since 2004, I chose to select No Party on my registration forms, this year I officially registered as a democrat. I wanted to vote in the democratic primary. I wanted to do whatever I could to help push along the candidate I wanted to be able to go against Trump. Then Clinton won the democratic nomination.

I kept saying Trump has a shot at this, a real fucking shot.  I said time and again this would be a Gore/ Bush show down, too close to call in some states, and in some ways worse than 2000.  Today with social media and everyone having their own microphone to shout into, things were about to get down and dirty. I personally had to hide Facebook and Twitter posts from my own family, frankly my father, whose bitter words I just couldn’t look at anymore.

For the record, this is not an I told you so post.  I do think a lot of people put themselves in a bubble. They never thought Trump had a chance…the media certainly didn’t! The learned lesson to come out of that… anything is fucking possible so if you don’t want an outcome you need to personally be responsible for working to change that outcome.

So November 8th…I came home around 7:30pm west coast time. I sat on the couch with my husband and dog beside me as more states turned red. As CNN broke out county by county red vs blue in states like Michigan and Wisconsin, I began getting more sad. The truth is I was nor have ever been a Hillary fan. I was in NY when she was Senator and didn’t agree with a lot of her stances on policy back then even as an early twenty-something. However, to me she was a far better choice than Trump.  I am a white woman with a lot of privilege in this country, I am married to a man originally from Lebanon who is now a US citizen. We come from different cultural and religious backgrounds and are like many many other couples who are in mixed faith and ethnic marriages. So as a woman, a woman married to a Muslim man, a woman about to give birth to a daughter, a woman who has a lot of friends who are LGBTQ and have fought for marriage equality, I did not support many …hell ANY of Trump’s rhetoric. I can not even say policy as I never really saw much policy experience.

Nov 8th 10pm… I asked my husband to turn off the television and I was ready to go to bed. At midnight on November 9th I heard fireworks and was notified via the BBC app that Trump had received the electoral votes he needed to become the next President of the United States.

At 6:30am November 9th I woke up hoping it was all a bad dream, like half the voters who came out to vote for Clinton. At 8:30am I practiced some meditation online with a dear friend who livestreams her practice. At 8:50am this friend broke down in tears in the middle of chanting and I would have given anything to hug her, but I began to cry with her. I am not a very emotional individual and I am rational enough to understand that though an incredibly important figure in our country, one man can not single handedly reverse Roe Vs. Wade or proclaim that marriage equality is denied. I cried just the same.  I had meetings. I kept moving. At 2:30pm I met with a manager who I had met only once and he broke down in tears during our conversation, apologizing to me. He was just shell shocked by the events that had transpired. Throughout the day I checked in with my friends as though a natural disaster had taken place and we were all placed into separate shelters with text messages as our only way to communicate that we were safe. Then at night, my husband and I ordered some food, and watched the Spurs take on the Rockets on ESPN.

Recounting the last almost 48 hours a lot of feelings have emerged… sadness, despair, hopelessness, anger, frustration, shock, resentment to name a handful. The other side of this are those that are joyful, triumphant, thankful, excited etc. Our country is divided…yes…but it has been for a long time. It’s not just a middle states thing. It’s a neighbor vs. neighbor thing. The bigger issue now is can we as Americans come together, sit down and break bread with one another…can we listen and communicate and have conversations with each other so that each side can understand where the other is coming from. I do this with my own father all the time. We have very different views on a lot of things, but sometimes when we listen to each others side we actually end up agreeing on certain points. Are there racist, bigoted ass holes who seem to be stuck in 1860…yup, but there are way more people who are not.

The great thing about this country is that we can speak our minds, we can fight back when we don’t agree with policy. Look at California…Proposition 8 – Eliminates Right of Same-Sex Couples to marry, was a statewide ballot proposition in California. On November 4, 2008, voters approved the measure and made same-sex marriage illegal in California. I remember on November 5, 2008 I took to the streets with my friends and then boyfriend and protested. I remember taking to the streets again and protesting at the Mormon temple for hours. Proposition 8 was ultimately ruled unconstitutional by a federal court (on different grounds) in 2010, although the court decision did not go into effect until June 26, 2013, following the conclusion of proponents’ appeals. So we ALL know what happens when as a people, as a united force, we band together and take action. It does not take one person to change the world, it takes a village.

So you can mourn, and you can be sad, but you also must stand up and take action. Volunteer your time with an organization whose work you believe in. Set meetings and write letters to the Congress members YOU elected to make sure they know what you stand for as they represent you and all of us! Fight, fight and then fight some more.

As a people we have stood by and been apathetic… going with the flow and the status quo because frankly things were somewhat easy, but anything worth doing is never ever easy. When the women of this country wanted the right to vote…the first national suffrage organizations were established in 1869 led by Susan B. Anthony, Elizabeth Cady Stanton and Lucy Stone. The National American Woman Suffrage Association was formed in 1890 and led by Anthony…because change takes time on August 18, 1920, the 19th amendment granted the women the right to vote. There are countless examples of these changes that took place in our country, the land of the free. This will not change, this will not go away. I am not brushing off the fact that millions of Americans do not have it easy, they are ostracized and hated based on the color of their skin and the religion they practice and many of these people were literally not free at one point and probably still feel that they are not, that they are less than, second class citizens. Again I am not blind to this. All I am saying is when we the people come together, we can make great change.

My adage yesterday was… today we mourn and tomorrow we take action. I stand by this. It is not simply words. It is researching the organizations I want to work with to make our country better, it is donating to causes I believe in, it is bringing people together from diverse backgrounds to have meaningful conversations. We can be angry and call people who voted for Trump bigoted, racist ass holes. I am sure many are. I am sure some Trump reporters call Clinton supporters elitist, delusional privileged ass holes…amongst other things… but we are all Americans…we all are humans… we all come from the wombs of women.

I will not end this post by saying STOP BEING SAD DAMN IT. I will not deny anyone to feel as they need and want to. I will, however, remind people that our country has had some pretty terrible fucking leaders. The last 20 years excluded for a second… does anyone remember Franklin Pierce? No? Take a look at that douche bag President…who essentially helped bring about the Civil War… He was a complete and total moron by all historical accounts and royally helped to fuck up the country and divide it even further. I mean anyone who literally helped push this country into an internal civil war for all intents and purposes, he can be looked at as a BAD LEADER for our country not to mention a raging alcoholic who ended up dying of liver poisoning. However, not many people think about the 14th President of the United States today. He was a blip on the Presidential radar. Hell they even named a school in New Hampshire after him…Franklin Pierce College. Unfortunately, Buchanan who came after got most of the Civil War slack, but looking deeper into history it really was Pierce who set everything into motion.

The events that transpire today will impact us today and certainly a handful of years down the line, but in 10 or 20 years Trump will just be a blip…time will tell what kind of blip he will be…will he help bring us into war…will he be the catalyst that helps plunge our country further into debt…who knows…in the meantime… we the people, one nation…with liberty and justice for all… we the people can come together and do what we have always done… fight to maintain what makes this country great…



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