Why the fuck has it been so fucking long?

Posted 9 January 2016 by

My last post here was in August 2013.

Then: I was a year and half into a new relationship. I was 4 months away from getting laid off from a job I was ready to leave anyway.  I was 35 and looked 28.  I was not bitchy, but slightly jaded. I was over Los Angeles.

I am married.  I have been with the same company for 2 years exactly in 5 days. I am 38 and look 35. I am bitchy and more jaded. I am over Los Angeles.


So let’s get down to it…why the fuck was it so long since I posted? The truth is I am not sure. I could lie and say I was off galavanting across the world or saving helping to save lives, but that’s all bullshit. Part of the reason I stopped posting was because I wanted to be careful to not piss anyone off.  Now that I don’t give a shit who I piss off…I am back! My objective is to post weekly about any topic that fits the what the actual fuck mantra…from politics, to my or someone else’s anatomy, from relationships to career or just some random musings… this is my place to speak my mind and perhaps give someone something to smile or scowl at.

The first what the actual fuck topic to be covered… resolutions…why the fuck do we need to make them at the beginning of every year…why not just resolve to do something every single god damned day? Obviously I am completely guilty of this myself…hello re-starting my blog in the new year.

Every year for awhile now my friends and I would gather together at someone’s home and write down all the things we wanted to let go of from the past year on one piece of paper. Then on another piece of paper we would write down everything we wanted to happen in the year to come. After, we would take the “letting go” paper, light it on fire and watch it burn both for dramatic effect and because we like lighting shit on fire. This year I missed the festivities as my husband and I were on our honeymoon and I have to admit I am in a bit of a panic. If I don’t write down the stuff I want to let go of and set it on fire does it mean that I will have to hang onto all the shit from 2015 and 2016… as if a year of shit isn’t enough now I have two years weighing me down? But then why can’t I do that today or tomorrow or in July? Who decided January 1st was when you had to let go of everything and start anew?

Per my research (on Wikipedia) the tradition of resolutions began as far back as Babylonian days whereby they would make promises to their gods at the start of each year. A 2007 study by Richard Wiseman from the University of Bristol involving 3,000 people showed that 88% of those who set New Year resolutions fail (WSJ, 2006).

I say…fuck the Babylonians.  Obviously you are better off making a resolution anytime other than January since you only have an 18% chance of success. I think ultimately, it’s about setting realistic goals for yourself, checking in to make you are meeting said goals and of course setting up a support system to make you accountable.

So here is to NOT making any resolutions this January and I will see you next week!


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